Inspired by Joan and John, the newly married, 70+ year old couple who shared their homemade Christmas cookies and life-long wisdom on loving & living during a six-hour flight.
I like to think I am pretty good at leading an exciting and moderately successful life (thanks entirely to opportunities paved by a loving family and outstanding friendships), so there’s very little in this world I’m afraid of. In fact, the only two things I really fear are a.) the unpredictable and b.) growing old. Expending energy worrying about the unpredictable seems useless, so that leaves me with a single relevant fear, growing old.
My issue with aging revolves around two things as well. a.) An inability to physically and/or mentally pursue passions and continue to do what I love and b.) being alone, without the one(s) I love. Until recently, I would become overwhelmed with anxiety at thought of the discussed.
Now, the story which eased my fear of growing old.
Joan and John went to high school together outside of Los Angles, CA. Post graduation, John persued a PHD in medicine, spent years as a doctor in the U.S. Air force – at one point serving as physician/guard to President Nixon. Jim later settled on a ranch near Dallas, TX where he and his wife raised four children. John continues to practice medicine.
Joan was more of a “free bird,” traveling the world procuring interesting experiences. She later became a nurse, married, and raised two sons and a daughter. Both Joan and Jim lived their lives to the fullest – happily married, raising successful children, traveling the world, and living contently by the rules. Joan and John never had contact with each other after high school.
Joan’s husband died more than fifteen years ago, years later she left her central California home to be close to her son in Tillamook, Oregon. After years of caring for his ill wife, John became a widow one year ago. In late July of this year, John contacted who I learned was his adolescent crush, Joan. John’s motive was innocent, meaning he was curious to know if Joan was alive, what she had done the last sixty years, etc.. He never imagined what would happen next.
Joan and John got along swimmingly over the phone and Internet, so much so that in August John fleeted his Texas ranch to visit Joan in her small coastal Oregon town. As Joan and John tell me, “it was love at first sight.”
Joan and John got married on Saturday, December 20, both in their late 70s. I had the pleasure of sharing a row with them on their honeymoon flight. We chatted for five of the six hours, they napped for one. It wasn’t just the best flight of my life, it was the single most refreshing experience of my life. I left that plane with feelings words can’t describe, insight I’ve never gained in literature, and a fresh perspective on how fantastic aging can be, so long as you never lose the love.
Joan and Jim, I thank you for sharing your un-dieing love with me… The cookies and peanut butter fudge you smuggled onto the plane were delightful as well.